So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.The other night my boyfriend told me that before we marry, he wanted to be sure I understood that God and ministry will always come before family for him.He knows that I have been raised to believe that family is your first ministry. But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage). It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.
Many women have traveled the same path with success and to the benefit of both themselves and the children. Get to know your mate before you leap to introduce him to your kids.
” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.
The world’s approach can provide fun and sex and children and eventually even some level of commitment, but it cannot lead to the life-giving Jesus after whom our marriages are to take their cues.
In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people.
You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.