If proper boundaries are not established, increasing intimacy can have some undesirable results – such as feelings of abuse or betrayal following a break-up, loss of appropriate personal boundaries without a commensurate commitment, and beginning to become one before the couple actually belongs to one another.With this in mind, let's explore some boundary guidelines.This time, I want to apply some of the same principles we've been thinking about to a relationship that moves beyond the "early stages" and gets serious.The essential line to walk here is to get to know one another better so that you can make a responsible and informed decision about marriage, but without married in the process and without violating 1 Thessalonians 4's admonition not to defraud and mistreat one another.
Guys, again the brunt of the work falls to you here. Let me also reiterate that, like asking someone to date initially, It's just a marker to say things are going well, and as far as you're concerned, the game is changing.
On the upside, Linda has spoken to enough writers that I was able to Google and find a great post on the topic by one of my online pals, Terry O’Dell.
I’ll give the stages and my thoughts here but if you want a more detailed description of how to use the 12 Stages in writing romance, skip on over to Terry’s blog and read her wonderful post called the 12 Steps To Intimacy. But boring is not a word I want associated with me and my writing.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.
We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.