‘Advice like “don’t approach him, don’t respond to his messages quickly, don’t tell him that you’re looking for a serious relationship, don’t be needy” is so 2006. ‘We’re playing defensive because we don’t want him to reject us.I’m asking women to embrace their own importance and empowerment. ‘Women challenge patriarchal or sexist practices in many other areas of our lives but we’re failing to look at love and dating through that mechanism.Like the men he aims to help, he too used to be shy and unhappy because of his lack of confidence. Pellicer explains that men set themselves up for failure because of their misconceptions about women.After months of research on psychology, women, and conducting endless field research himself, he perfected The Tao of Badass. He helps men change their perceptions about women by revealing little known secrets about the female psyche.‘When you do, you start thinking about what it means to you to select a partner who is good for you rather than randomly “winning” any man who will accept you.’ ‘Probably the first dating Bible was the female equivalent of The Game [a male pick-up artist story], which was called The Rules. ‘There’s harassment and then there’s approaching people in a way that’s respectful.‘They literally gave a set of rules to live by if one wants to have a husband. ‘People say approaching someone in the daytime is harassment. ‘Why is it fine to meet someone by going to a bar, getting drunk, deciding there’s no-one fit around you and then going on Tinder?
‘It’s about not positioning him as the prize,’ she says.
If it breaks you, pick yourself up and get back on the horse.
And I’m not that funny, but I’ll say that’ll get them to laugh, no matter how weird or out of line, and once you make them laugh their walls have been broken, they’ll let you in, at least a little, then you’ve just gotta have the confidence to be yourself. Compliment her, sure, but be sure to make her laugh.
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She’s worked in the dating industry for seven years, coached thousands of women and men, been the dating expert on The Apprentice and Made In Chelsea.