In a recent study, 64% of participants were likely to think women were the first to say they were in love, and these professions were estimated to occur close to 2 months into a relationship (Ackerman, Griskevicius, & Li, 2011).
The stereotype is that women are more interested in relationships, especially serious relationships, and are therefore more likely to confess their feelings sooner than men.
Though our eight-day “I love you” would be too soon for other couples, it was guided by the following principles.
Wherever you’re at in your own relationship, use these same principles to guide the timing of those three little words.
It’s one of the reasons I challenge you to think before making out, to honor God’s design for sex, and to protect the value of your intimate self.
When you celebrate sexuality God’s way, your purity protects your emotions. I will press through difficulty to make us work.” fail. SEE ALSO: The Dangers of Acting Like You are Married I hope you were intimidated by the real weight of “I love you”.
Your emotions will stay play a role, but they won’t dictate your decisions. When we say “I love you”, we’re really saying something more like this: “I will be patient with you. I won’t be jealous or condescending or arrogant toward you. I promise to uphold purity of mind, body, and spirit, and saturate myself with God’s truth, because I love you. And I hope you see how absolutely it is for you to be in a thriving relationship with Jesus Christ in order to love this way.
He Has a Recurring Thing for You Sometimes a man will express that he loves you in simple gestures.
He will develop a little thing he does regularly so you know he cares.
On average, men started thinking about professing their love about 3 months into the relationship whereas women in the study started thinking about it closer to 5 months into the relationship.
Researchers suggest this happens because women’s physiological traits (i.e., childbearing abilities) are evolutionary more “valuable.” Therefore, women can afford to wait for declarations of love and be more selective about who they choose to love…or have sex with.