Much of the time, when you meet that perfect person (who is witty, attractive, intelligent, and single), it turns out they’re on the market because the idea of a committed relationship terrifies the pants off them… (They might not even realize it.) Societal structures and gender norms mean by and large, the commitment-phobia stereotype is mainly lobbed at males, and for good reason.Women who wish to have a family often have stricter timetables for finding a suitable mate, and realizing you’re dating a commitment-phobe who may be ready to settle down can be more than frightening.Fact: Most people who are afraid to commit aren't going to come out and say it—at least not at first. I'm reformed…I think.) If you watch closely, you can see the signs sooner.Usually you don't find out until three months in or so, when he breaks things off while avoiding eye contact and mumbling something lame like, "Sorry, I'm just not ready for a serious relationship." Commitment-phobes can be sneaky. These are a typical commitment-phobe's seven biggest tells.Maybe he takes you out on amazing dates and shows you a really great time.Maybe he’s talked to you about your family, friends and things you love about life.Plus, he’s chasing you so he must be trying to win you over… That is, until you suggest things like meeting your parents or you talk about your future together or even what you want from the relationship.That’s when he pulls away, emotionally withdraws and starts flaking. ” He comes up with excuses for why he either doesn’t want to talk about it, or he just gives you excuses for why he doesn’t want *that* kind of relationship with you.
And he's way more comfortable with the former. The advanced commitment-phobe is aware of the previous telltale sign, so he tends to avoid the subject of exes.Sometimes you are in a relationship with a guy who seems like an amazing boyfriend, the kind of man who you could see yourself with for the rest of your life.So what happens if you’re in a relationship with that guy, but he seems to be a “commitment phobe”?When I was single I went through a two year spate of dating commitment-phobes. This was a frustrating and really draining time in my life (especially because most of the men I chose also lived interstate). I invested in several fruitless relationships with men who were avoidant, emotionally unavailable, inconsistent and generally noncommittal.With time and patience, a commitment-phobe can be “fixed,” in a sense.