The vagina totally changes when it's turned on, so it should be really wet and the clitoris and whole vulva should be throbbing.If it still hurts, perhaps you could start with fingers?Most hospitals have special clinics called genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinics, which give tests and treatment for STIs.
It can also be about finding a good time to talk things through with them; when they feel comfortable.
Tamsin: There is an article on The Mix that talks about painful sex.
Justin: I've got lots of stuff on my website about how your sexual body parts work.
Justin has worked as a sex and relationships educator for over 15 years.
Here, he answers questions about sex and love with the help of The Mix relationships advisor Tamsin. [Chrissie: Me and my boyfriend have an intimate relationship, however I sometimes feel pain when he tries to insert himself in me. Justin: Sex should never hurt (unless you're doing something that's to hurt, like love bites). It might help to ask yourself if this is the kind of sex you actually want?