I joined a couple online dating sites about a month ago, several weeks after my breakup.
My initial intention was to get an idea of what's out there.
Since online dating starts as basically a stats thing, we're nearly all judged on those things first.
That's just my type when it comes to the superficial stuff.
Obviously there needs to be an immense amount of substance beneath the surface, but I'm not going to date someone who doesn't spend any time taking care of herself.
Long story short: I'm not ugly, I have friends, an active social life, I'm employed, and so on, yet I find it impossible to date.
I have gone on dates in the literal sense, kissed guys, and had sex.